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Poems
from Stella Dunstan, Cambridge, UK
These poems on cancer
were sent to us by Stella Dunstan who lost her brother to lung cancer.
They provide strong motivation for all smokers to give up their habit.
WHAT AM I?
Orange and white is what I am -
I wouldn’t say that I was glam.
Starting long, I finish short,
Putting you on life support.
I make a mess, I don’t smell nice,
And accompanying me is a very high price.
Life with me will never be fun -
I’m sure you’ll wish you’d never begun!
To this one I have got no answer.
All I offer is lung cancer.
Do you wish we’d never met?
Yes, me - that killer cigarette!
© Copyright Stella
Dunstan 2001
Creative Communication
ALL BECAUSE YOU SMOKE
I cannot breath, you’re stifling me
My vision’s blurred, I cannot see
The reason for these ghastly things
Is all because you smoke
You take that dirty cigarette
A smell that no one can forget
The reason for these ghastly things
Is all because you smoke
Your teeth are yellow, your breath is stale
Have you thought what you inhale
The reason for these ghastly things
Is all because you smoke
Your purse is empty for they’re a price
Very expensive for something not nice
The reason for these ghastly things
Is all because you smoke
You’ve got lung cancer and it’s too late
Do you want to be buried or shall we cremate
The reason for these ghastly things
Is all because you smoke
© Copyright Stella Dunstan 2001
SEALED WITH A KISS
His eyes met mine,
I started to melt
This was a moment I’d never felt
He pressed his lips up against mine
But all of a sudden he’d lost his shine
His breath was stale, the taste was bad
I walked away and I was glad
His teeth were yellow, he smelt of smoke
So unpleasant, it was no joke
He was like kissing an old ash tray
And all that I am left to say
Is think of what you might regret
When kissing a walking cigarette
© Copyright Stella Dunstan 2001
How
to quit smoking :
Over
the years numerous people have come to Cancer Patients Aid Association
expressing their genuine desire to quit smoking. Yet they are unable to
do so. There are both psychological and pharmacological reasons why quitting
is so tricky. The nicotine in cigarettes is potentially as addictive as
cocaine and heroine and hence as difficult to give up. Medical aids in
the form of patches and chewing gum that release moderate amounts of nicotine
into the bloodstream, have been found to be partially successful during
the early days in combating withdrawal symptoms.
However
the psychological aspects of the habit are equally hard to surmount and
must be overcome by sheer will power. Each individual’s motivations for
trying to quit vary. The most important step remains the first one, making
the decision. Subsequently each one of us must assess what it is that
will motivate us to quit. Given below are some tips that can be used.
- Before you quit
smoking, try wrapping your cigarettes with a sheet of paper like a Christmas
present. Every time you want a cigarette, unwrap the pack and write
down what you are doing, how you feel and how important this cigarette
is to you. Do this for two weeks and you will cut down as well as develop
new insights into your habit.
- Many smokers feel
that cigarettes give them energy. Such people should try gum, modest
exercise, a brisk walk or a new hobby. But keep in mind, most smokers
tend to put on weight, so watch your diet and do not start eating rich
foods.
- If you gain weight
while giving up smoking, don’t start dieting immediately. Wait until
you have succeeded in giving up smoking first.
- If cigarettes help
you to relax, try meditating, drinking a new beverage or some new social
activity.
- Try choosing an
opportune time to quit, such as when you are ill with a cold or flu
and have lost your taste for cigarettes.
- On a 3"x5"
card, make a list of what you like and dislike about smoking. Add to
it and refer to it daily.
- Make a short list
of things you have always wanted to buy. Next to each, write its cost.
Convert each cost into number of packs of cigarettes. If you save the
money each day, you will now be able to buy these items. Use a special
piggy bank for collecting this money.
- Do not smoke after
you get the craving until at least 3 minutes have passed. During that
time, change your thinking or activity. Telephone somebody you can talk
to until the craving subsides.
- Plan a memorable
day for stopping. Choose a vacation, New Year’s Day, your birthday,
a holiday, your child’s birthday, your anniversary. But don’t make the
date so distant that you change your mind.
- If you smoke under
stress at work, pick a date when you are away from work.
- Decide whether
you are going to stop suddenly or gradually. If it is to be gradual,
work out a tapering system so that you have immediate goals on your
way to an ‘I Quit’ day.
- Don’t store up
cigarettes. Never buy by the carton. Wait until one pack is finished
before you buy another.
- Never carry cigarettes
around with you at home or at work. Keep them as far away as possible.
Leave them with someone or lock them up.
- Until you quit,
make a smoking corner that is far away from anything interesting.
- Never smoke while
watching television.
- If you like to
smoke with others, try smoking alone. If you like smoking alone, try
to find the company of people who do not smoke.
- Never carry matches
or lighters around with you.
- Put away ashtrays
or fill them with flowers or nuts. Walnuts will give you something to
do with your hands.
- Change your cigarette
brand so that you progressively smoke cigarettes with lower and lower
tar and nicotine content.
- Always ask yourself,
"Do I really need this cigarette or is it just a reflex?"
- Try to help someone
else stop smoking.
- Each day try to
postpone lighting your first cigarette of the day.
- Decide that you
will only smoke on even or odd numbered hours or as the habit recedes,
on odd or even dates.
- Keep your hands
occupied. Try a musical instrument, knitting or puzzles.
- Make a major change
in your habits. Seek new activities or perform old ones in new ways.
Think of different ways to solve problems. Do things differently.
- Get out of the
house if you tend to smoke more at home.
- Keep to places
where smoking is not allowed, libraries, theatres, department stores
or just go to bed early during the first few days when you are trying
to give up smoking.
- Keep light reading
materials, crossword puzzles or brochures to read during coffee breaks.
- Take a shower or
do something where you cannot smoke.
- Brush your teeth
frequently to get rid of the tobacco taste and stains.
- Visit your dentist
after you quit and have your teeth cleaned to remove tobacco stains
and stale tobacco taste.
- When you have a
craving for a cigarette, take 10 deep breaths, hold the last breath
while you light a match and blow it out with the exhaled breath. Put
the match out in an ashtray, as you would have a cigarette. Pretend
that it was a cigarette you put out. Then immediately start another
activity.
- Only smoke half
a cigarette and throw the rest away.
- After you quit,
start using your lungs. Increase your activities and start moderate
exercise, such as walks.
- Place a bet with
someone that you can quit. Put the cigarette money in a jar each morning
and forfeit it if you smoke, keeping the money if you don’t smoke by
the end of the week. Gradually extend this period until you stop altogether.
- Purchase a money
order equivalent to a year’s supply of cigarettes and give it to a friend
for safe keeping. If you smoke in the next year, your friend keeps the
money order. If you don’t, he gives it back to you at the end of the
year.
- If you are depressed
or have physical symptoms that might be related to your smoking, discuss
it with a doctor. It is easier to quit when you are aware of your health
status.
- After you quit,
decide on someone who you can call when you crave a cigarette. Never
face the situation of craving a cigarette alone.
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The Benefits of Quitting Smoking
What happens to your body when you quit smoking
If you smoke, your body is constantly working to try and
repair the damage done by regularly inhaling more than 4000 toxic
chemicals. Every hour, day, week, month and year that you go without
smoking, your health will improve. You will feel immediate benefits when
you quit as your body starts to repair itself. Quitting at any age is
beneficial and does not only increase life expectancy, it also improves
quality of life.
After 8 hours:
* Nicotine will start to leave your body.
* Your heart rate and blood pressure will begin to return to normal.
* The level of oxygen in your blood will start to increase.
After 12 hours:
* There will be almost no nicotine remaining in your body.
After 24 hours:
* The level of carbon monoxide in your blood will have dropped
dramatically.
After 3 to 5 days:
* Your sense of taste and smell will improve.
* You will feel and sleep better and your breath, clothes and hair will
smell fresher.
After 1 month:
* Your immune system will begin to show signs of recovery.
* You will experience less shortness of breath and be able to exercise
more easily than before.
After 2 months:
* Your lungs will no longer be producing the extra phlegm caused by
smoking.
* Your blood pressure level will return to normal.
* Your blood circulation will improve and blood will flow more easily to
your hands and feet.
After 3 months:
* The cilia in your lungs will have recovered to efficiently clean your
lungs and airways.
After 1 year:
* Your risk of dying from coronary heart disease will be half that of a
continuing smoker.
After 5 years:
* Your risk of cancer of the mouth, throat and oesophagus will be half
that of a continuing smoker.
After 10 years:
* Your risk of lung cancer will be less than half that of a continuing
smoker.
After 15 years:
* Your risk of coronary heart disease and stroke will be almost the same
as that of a person who has never smoked.
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It's never too late ~ a poem
by Aniket Anand
Damp breeze amongst shimmering
lights,
Quite heavy lay the rainy night,
Incessant coughs, her voice too gruff,
Yet rose the white smoke puff.
Minutes ago the rain had ceased,
Hither-thither lay chilling mist,
She had found a bench and lighted one,
Remorseful for having done.
Her life was a happy and pleasant one,
A carefree bird with hunters none,
Yet she smoked, the free sweet lark,
Two years ago in the same old park.
As days rushed past and months went by,
She missed her smile, her stare wry,
The lark quit her chirp and song and play,
She couldn't sleep at night and smoked all day.
Numerous alikes she found on the way,
But they seemed happy, cheerful and gay,
She envied their joy and wept lighting it,
A monstrous effort - she was trying to quit.
She liked it then, as all other folks,
Looked down upon the world as a roosting hawk,
She relished diving in the smoky well,
Yes, it helped to delve in her self.
Now a deplorable her, yearning to quit,
She threw them all and yelped seeing it,
She tried all day with her last bit,
But as night fell, she bought one and lit.
And so it happened, day after day,
"I pity her," you could hear them say,
She restrained for a while but couldn't for long,
She would end up smoking every morn.
Then there was a day she managed without,
Enthralled to the spirit, she would scream and shout,
She said aloud, "I'd no more be sick,"
Yet the next setting sun lit the stick.
There were days again she managed without,
"She'll smoke again," you could hear them doubt,
But she fought and stretched it to a week,
Spirited again to give up the wick.
Steadily she tread the path so wild,
Determined to quit before she died,
Months now she could stand without lighting it,
Eventually, one gracious day, she managed to quit.
She was strolling past the same old park,
She found a faint light amidst the dark,
A young boy smoking, two packets nearby lay,
"It's never late to quit," she said and went away.
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Out Like a Light-By Colleen Braganza, HT Sunday
Magazine, February 17, 2008
Nicotine is as addictive
as drugs like cocaine and heroin. No wonder that it takes a little more
than will power to kick smoking for good. You know it’s charring your
lungs, your breath smells foul, your skin feels like leather, you feel
exhausted all the time and you realise you stopped enjoying it a long time
ago. So, you decide to stub out your last cigarette and swear no more,
never more. You are smoke free for a day, for two, for a month. The pull
of cigarette smoke beckons you everywhere – over drinks in pubs, in
restaurants, while meeting friends, outside office. You resist. You feel
good about it. But one day, you are vulnerable. You crave that fix. Just
one, you reason with yourself. You succumb. You are a smoker again. Many
smokers will be familiar with this story. After all, it’s the story of
their lives. This is not to say that people don’t succeed. But this piece
is for those who fail.
BODY & MIND
“Seventy per cent of
smokers want to quit the habit but cannot because nicotine is as addictive
as drugs like cocaine and heroin,” says tobacco cessation expert Dr
Sajeela Maini, a consultant with Delhi’s Sir Ganga Ram Hospital. Dr Maini,
who has helped scores kick the butt, says individuals often fail to quit
smoking because it is a habit attached to one’s lifestyle. “Smokers crave
a smoke when they are happy or sad, while sipping tea / coffee, before or
after work, before and after meals or while meeting friends; the list is
endless.” Smokers need to break that lifestyle link or they will fail to
quit, she says. The doctor adds that smoking is an addiction of the mind
and body, thus any attempt to quit should address both the physiological
and psychological factors. Often, the barriers to quitting successfully
are more psychological than physiological. This is because the
physiological craving for a cigarette just lasts 72 hours. It’s the
psychological craving that is more difficult to overcome.
Twenty-five-year-old copywriter Arpan Sengupta would agree. Spooked after
a close relative died due to oral cancer, Sengupta quit smoking five years
ago, but his attempt lasted four ‘difficult’ months. He simply broke one
day. “I was in college and had to give in some work. The pressure was
really on. So one day I just lit a cigarette and said ‘this is so much
better’. It is really more of a psychological than physiological thing,”
he adds.
KICK THE BUTT
But you can kick the habit
for good. “The best way is to go cold turkey. That is, quit abruptly,”
says Dr Maini, who doesn’t believe that anyone can quit smoking
successfully by reducing the number of cigarettes gradually. “You are
never a reduced smoker. You are either a smoker or not.” At the tobacco
cessation clinic at the Sir Ganga Ram Hospital, smokers undergo a
scientific assessment and diagnosis and are prepared to quit smoking in
7-8 sittings spread over two weeks. The programme is fashioned according
to individual needs and can include Nicotine Replacement Therapy if
required. The sittings address two parameters: making a person quit and
teaching him / her to remain smoke free.
So how do you do that?
You can start by
identifying your triggers. What is it that prompts you to smoke? An
ashtray, a cigarette, a person smoking, a meal or a movie or a cup of
coffee?
When you identify your
triggers, you are in a better position to deal with them. “When the
craving strikes you need to defer that impulse. Do something else; drink a
glass of water or juice or eat an orange. Whenever you eat something, the
urge to smoke will go. Thus, the impulse dies,” says Dr Maini, who says
the tobacco cessation programme at the Ganga Ram hospital has a 70-80 per
cent success rate.
ONE SMOKE SYNDROME
As Mark Twain found out,
quitting smoking is easy. But the real challenge lies in staying clean for
good. After all, it just takes one cigarette for a relapse. “A relapse is
never planned. It starts with an impulse. You fool yourself saying ‘one
cigarette will not do any harm.’ No one realises the ‘one cigarette’
syndrome is very dangerous,” warns Dr Maini. That’s how 33-year-old
financial advisor Husain succumbed. A smoker for 12 years now, Husain
decided to quit last year. “I didn’t smoke for three months. After initial
discomfort, I really enjoyed being smoke free. Then while hanging out with
a couple of old friends, one of whom was a chain smoker, I took a drag on
the spur of the moment,” says Husain, regretfully. And that was the end of
his smoke free experiment. “I really want to punch that friend,” he
laughs. To prevent relapses from happening, Dr Maini has a few
commandments that her patients must follow. “I tell them that they must
say no to shared or offered cigarettes. They must not take even a single
puff.”
HYPNOSIS
Quitting smoking with the
help of hypnotherapy is an option for smokers too.
Mumbai-based
hypnotherapist Dr Neeta Yuvraj, who has conceived of a unique smoking
cessation programme using hypnosis, says her success rate is 99.9 per cent
among willing candidates. That is, smokers who want to quit of their own
accord. “People who approach us to please their parents or girl /
boyfriends, usually fail.” Dr Yuvraj explains how hypnotherapy works. “We
all have positive and negative associations stored in our mind. Most of us
have positive associations with smoking, say memories of a girlfriend,
thrill of rebellion or power and a feeling of being wanted. We take
smokers back to the first time they smoked and ask them to remember how
they felt. Some say, ‘strong like my father’, others say, ‘we finally felt
complete’. We then reprogramme the sub-conscious mind to disassociate from
these positive feelings and replace them with neutral feelings.” Dr Yuvraj
adds that smoking is the tip of a deeper malaise. “Smokers don’t realise
it, but they smoke because of a deep void in their lives. It could be a
need for love, recognition, spiritual experience or comfort. We help
identify that void under hypnosis and help smokers emotionally come to
terms with it.” Once that void is dealt with, smokers don’t feel the need
to smoke any more. They are effectively ‘cured’.
cbraganza@hindustantimes.com
INSTANT RECOVERY MODE
Did you know that your
body goes into recovery mode the moment you quit smoking? “The body is
very good to us. We abuse it, but it recovers quickly when we stop,” says
Dr Maini. For one, the carbon monoxide (CO) levels in your system drop
drastically. Dr Maini tests her clients for CO levels every day. “They can
actually see the drop. It’s very motivating.” Besides that, Dr Maini says,
“you feel energetic almost immediately. Food tastes better, you feel
healthier, you are not tired all the time, your skin feels better and your
smoker’s cough goes.” Even hardcore smokers who quit, however temporarily,
admit they feel better immediately. Says Husain of his brief interlude in
a smoke free world: “I felt good, fresh. I didn’t feel tired at the end of
the day. Mentally I was averse to people who smoked. When I met other
smokers I even used to think ‘God, I used to smell like this’!”
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